Congratulations and Welcome!
On behalf of St. Anthony Catholic Community we rejoice with you on your engagement! We pray that this time of immediate preparation for your matrimony will be filled with divine grace, happiness and joy. We trust that these guidelines will assist you in preparing to celebrate the Sacrament of Matrimony at St. Anthony Catholic Community in Tigard, Oregon.
SETTING THE WEDDING DATE: A wedding date is reserved at the time of the initial parish contact or as soon as possible. Dates for weddings are normally reserved 6 months to a year in advance. Please note that if an annulment or dispensation is required no date will be planned until the process is completed.
If you are planning a marriage in another parish please contact that parish for a wedding date.
1. REQUIRED DOCUMENTS
BAPTISMAL CERTIFICATES: The Catholics must present a baptismal certificate issued by the parish in which they were baptized and dated no more than six months before the date of the wedding. The non-Catholic party, if baptized is asked to present a record of his or her baptism. These certificates are to be obtained as soon as possible.
PERSONAL TESTIMONY FORM: The bride and groom must individually attest to their willingness and freedom to marry. This statement is signed in the presence of a priest, deacon, or pastoral assistant who acts as an official witness of the Church, much like a notary public. The priest who is witnessing your marriage will help with this.
WITNESS TESTIMONY FORM: Two witnesses for each party (normally the parents) must sign an affidavit attesting to the party’s freedom to marry. This must be signed before a priest/deacon. Witnesses can also fill out this form in their own parish and then have the forms sent to this parish.
In case of special circumstances, special forms will have to be filled out and permission required:
In case a Catholic person is getting married to a baptized, non-Catholic person, you will need to fill out a Dispensation Form
In case a Catholic person is getting married to a non-Catholic, non-baptized person (Jewish, Muslim, Atheist, Mormon, etc…) a Dispensation from Disparity of Cult Form is required.
In case a Catholic person is getting married outside a Catholic church (Synagogue, Temple, Christian Church, etc..) it will require a Dispensation from the Canonical Form of Marriage
2. OREGON STATE REQUIREMENTS
Applicants for a marriage license must be at least 18 years of age.
A 17 year old may apply for a marriage license with the signature of a parent or legal guardian.
Application for marriage is made on forms furnished by the county clerk. There is a three (3) day waiting period from the date of issuance of the marriage license before the wedding may take place.
When the marriage license is issued it is valid throughout the state for 60 days, and the marriage may take place anywhere within the State of Oregon.
There is a fee for this license. The cost is $60.00.
The license and the Certificate of Marriage with the full legal names and addresses of the witnesses need to be given to the Parish Office as soon as it is purchased or one week before the wedding.
The officiating priest or deacon will fill out the forms and present you with your official marriage certificate after the wedding.
Under no circumstances will the wedding go ahead without a license.
3. MARRIAGE INSTRUCTIONS
In preparation for married life the bride and groom must be instructed in the responsibilities of Christian marriage. If you are being prepared at St. Anthony’s we offer the following instructions:
MEETING WITH THE PRIEST OR DEACON: Every couple will journey with the priest or deacon who will be preparing you for marriage. He will offer assistance in the preparation of the ceremony as well as be a source of support with any issue of concern.
FOCUS INVENTORY: This inventory helps the couple to evaluate their relationship and provides information for sharing.
SPONSOR COUPLE: Each couple will be assigned a sponsor couple who will journey with the couple preparing for marriage and who will help them through the Focus inventory. These sponsor couples are married parishioners who have been trained to work with engaged couples.
ENGAGED ENCOUNTER WEEKEND: This weekend is designed to further develop the couple’s ability to communicate with each other. Please contact the website at www.oregonengagedencounter.org
Weekends begin on Friday evening at 7:30pm and end by 3:00pm on Sunday.
NATURAL FAMILY PLANNING: Natural Family Planning (NFP) is the general title for the scientific, natural and moral methods of family planning that can help married couples either achieve or postpone pregnancies.
NFP methods are based on the observation of the naturally occurring signs and symptoms of the fertile and infertile phases of a woman’s menstrual cycle. No drugs, devices, or surgical procedures are used to avoid pregnancy. Since the methods of NFP respect the love-giving (unitive) and life-giving (procreative) nature of the conjugal act, they support God’s design for married love! If you are interested in learning more please ask the priest, deacon or sponsor couple for details
LITURGY PLANNING: Couples will arrange to plan the marriage ceremony with our Director of Music and the officiating priest or deacon.
If you are getting married at St. Anthony’s but live in another parish, we ask that you follow the guidelines set forth in that particular parish. However, the preparation for the ceremony should be done with the liturgy Coordinator and the presider of your wedding.